The giver, the taker

Dynamic relationship; defined by my dear wise friend, one person know what to give and what to take everytime they are together or not.
You have to be in both position, giver and taker.

Analogi and explaination;
Why sometimes shitty relationship seen by us still last longer? Because they need each other. The girl want someone that can spend his forever times for her, so in order to get that, she has to take all the shittyness of his boy. Vise versa. When you are in need, and there is someone who can give you that and this, plus that very person also need something from you. So, whatever happened, you will stuck in that ups and downs relationship.
If and only if you have high self centric, can survive alone, then you can bid goodbye to this kind of relationship


1 thing to be reminded, this kind of relationship offers more ups and downs, hey that is why we call them dynamic, irregular and moving.
Up dynamic relationship (positive vibe) --> when both of you really in need, of each other, then everything she/he offers, eventually received and you will give up everything for that. That is positive because of you are in need.
Meanwhile downs dynamic (negative) is when either one of you or neither, demand nothing. Which is harm if it happens for quite a long time, because you will have this cognitive feeling of not wanting, which everyone knew if it happens for a quite long time, you will lose feeling, either love or tender feeling over your partner.


For me, I always find this kind of relationship is challenging and out of my conformity. In any relationship, I am the one who always be the giver. And that is my comfort zone. Thus, everytime I have to be the taker, real awkwardness will happen. I may perceive it quite diferrent way and sometimes annoying. But if diferrnt gender relationship, I can act well. But in 1 gender relationship, I just cannot.


Irregular, moving, non-comformity, relationship.